NLP Times.Com: How To Get Good With NLP FAST

One of the biggest traps any NLPer can make is to try and cognitively perceive what in effect something they should be doing. When learning NLP, a good rule of thumb is to spend 80% of your time in the doing. One strong experience is worth a thousand times all the notes and highlighting of books you can ever do. A while back I was in a bar and there was a friendly young chap who had heard from my partner that I am involved with NLP.

Being an active student in the speed seduction community he attempted to covertly anchor me as he talked about all the cool things you can "do" to others in the goal of getting gals interested in him. The approach exemplified being an NLP ass! But to be fair the guys was well intended he just thought that talking about NLP is the same as doing NLP. The other error that many folks make is to think that when we "do" NLP we are "doing it on others" ..which is total B.S. (as Tony Robbins would say - a belief system). When you think about NLP from this way then you also take on the limitations that come with it like "failure", that you are coming from a place of power and control etc.

To get good at NLP requires only a few things: 1. Get clear in your head what you're trying to learn/achieve Having a clear outcome for what you want to do with the stuff you learn will help in fast tracking the process. Chunking is also important - chunk the skill you want to get at a suitable level is important otherwise it is easy to get lost in trying to learn everything but have no clear grounding on how you will apply it.

2. The get out of your head - the learning is in the doing Practice and notice the results you get. Be a constant student. 3. Don't ever think you know it all or that all you need is "understanding" I've meet and discussed NLP with many of the top names in the field and not one of them (IMHO) thinks they have got it "all" or that there is nothing left to learn or create. Understanding is the end of the process of learning and you don't need to understand how something works to be able to use it. So if you find yourself confused, good, keep moving and all of a sudden it will make sense. But more importantly you will be able to use it, and that will give you so much more first hand experiences to figure out what works well for you and what you need to improve on.

To get good at using NLP Techniques you need to: Have a clear goal and TOTE for what you want to do. Realise the techniques aren't just stuff to throw against any old wall, that they are purposeful and intended for a specific application. f a client is stuck and you run the phobia technique on them you're unlikely to get a positive response. Yet you might first start with calibrating to their worldview, conversationally ellict what is triggering this response and how he keeps "being stuck" as the right thing to do and in place on an ongoing basis etc.

Sure ask other skilled NLPers for input but stay committed to getting the change/outcome. Make sure you are flexible and systematic when you use the tool set. Does the person have a clear goal and desired state, do they have a strategy to get them to their desired state? Is it linked up to a motivation strategy and have you got them to the point where they go "heck, get out of my way and let me get on with this??" If not, it’s time to loop back and re-amplify their state and desire for the goal. Easy. To find out more about Neuro-Linguistic Programming and NLP techniques visit www.nlptimes.com